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Honestly, I still can’t believe I am in the adulthood phase of a certain age, do not get me wrong, I’m not childish mid-thirty years old; my mother passed away when I was six years old. Therefore, I had to be more conscious and careful than my peers at a young age.
I grew up knowing right from wrong; education has been the center of my childhood; I had a decent and none traumatized upbringing and, most importantly, a delighted adolescent stage for the most part.
Growing up I always thought of the 30’s as a far very “lointain âge” in which whoever breathes enough to get to the milestone’s years would have life figured out. Or better say accomplished and checked every box and feel and look very old.
It turns out to be a 360-degree difference, not from what I wanted for myself but, for the most part, what society has predicted for me or, better say, all thirty-year-old women walking this earth.
Yes, I’m educated, healthy, married, working, and manifesting my dreams and goals; forwarding all these mentions, I also envisioned my thirty’s to be boring, serious, know-it-all, and programmed.
I am pleasantly happy to be still quirky and save most of my childhood and adolescence naively behavior; I feel young inside and out; of course, I have matured and experienced a lot. Nonetheless, I believe I still have a lot of room to grow and learn even more.
I forgive my 20-year-old self to be so hard on herself; it took me years and a lot of sacrifices to become the woman I am today, could I have accomplished more professionally? maybe. Did I check all the boxes I envisioned? Certainly not. Do I have a better path going forward in my forties? I genuinely believe so.
What has learned so far in my thirties, have fun in your twenties and work to have stability, mostly mental health stability, with your family, relatives, friends, and the people you are dating, and learn to know yourself and what you REALLY want?
So far, my thirties have been the best chapter of my life, I am more aware of my wants and needs, there is a big difference between the two, I see myself as a work in progress and not a structured individual.
From my personal experience, it is totally okay to prove everyone wrong from the outcome they have projected on you. If you ask me, Annevalentine what is the best accomplishment you have exceeded so far? It is being at peace with myself, finding peace has constructively helped me build confidence. I know who I am, where I came from, what I can and cannot do, and my goals and priorities are determined.
Of course, I will make mistakes, hence I am even open to them, much to say I know situations to avoid, and which opportunities to grab. That is the skin I am in as of now, drinking my water and continuing the glow I inherited from my grandmother down passed to me from my mother, Zette.
I know twenty years old matured enough for a sexagenarian, and fifty-year-old acting barely out of puberty; age does not define a person, and remember, each person’s journey is different.
The very purpose of starting this blog was to present a 30-year-old immigrant black woman who is building her block. To resource from my creativity, I want to show that it’s never too late to start, restart and follow one dream.
I would love to hear from you. What current skin are you in right now? Please comment down below.
Thank you so much for reading and sharing!
Smooches
A.J
